What’s your Yeah But?
If you search you will find lots of stories of people successfully recovering from ME/CFS, Fibromyalgia, CRPS, PTSD, anxiety or depression.
When people come across a success story from a person who once had what they are now suffering from there is often a very familiar response…….
There are thousands of endings to this statement.
Yeah but….. they weren’t as sick as me
Yeah but…..I’ve had it much longer
Yeah but…..theirs was all in their head. Mine is real.
Yeah but…..they could afford it
Yeah but…..mine is more complicated
Yeah but…..I was told there is no cure
Yeah but…..if they got well then they never had what I have
Yeah but…..mine’s much worse
Yeah but…..mine is different
Yeah but…..it’s not possible
The “Yeah But” is a wonderful way of staying exactly where you are.
The fascinating thing is that I have seen people who have been sick for more than 40 years, or bed bound for over a decade, people on enough pain killers to kill a small elephant, people whose version of overdoing activity was talking or just opening their eyes for more than a minute and where the payback or consequence of overdoing it was months lying in a dark room, I’ve heard PTSD stories that are horrific, people with more specialists than friends, people who have outfoxed medical science by not responding to what ‘normally’ works. People who have long periods in hospital or tube fed.
What is important is they all come to me having gone through hell and come with a long history of failed treatments. But they get to a place where they are ready to put all that behind them, to take charge and make massive change in their lives.
In the application process I challenge them – Why the Lightning Process? What makes you think you can do do this training? It takes work and it’s not for everyone.
“Yeah but ……..if others can do it, so can I”
There’s still work ahead for these people but it’s a ‘yeah but’ that is a stepping stone to change.
What’s your ‘yeah but’? Choose wisely.